The Universal Pleasure Device

INTERVIEW WITH SHAY MARTIN BY ZOË LIGON

The Magic Wand was not my first vibrator ever, but it WAS the very first vibrator that helped me orgasm on my own! I cannot stress how life-changing the acquisition of this wand was (and still is) for me. It is not only a masturbation staple, but it is also a partnered sex staple, and at this point, I have one in every room in my house. That’s how serious my passion for this toy is.

Like many other first-time vibrator buyers, I went with a very small unassuming vibrator on my first go. Because it was such a small vibe, I found it underwhelming. The vibrations did absolutely nothing for me, and if I hadn’t decided to try out the Magic Wand, I might have written off vibrators all together. Truly nothing compares to the intensity, deep rumble, and flexibility of the head of this toy, and still to this day, it is my all-time favorite vibrator.

As the second generation of women to lead Vibratex and the famous Magic Wand brand, Shay and her husband Dan have spent the last 24 years building one of the most successful sexual wellness businesses in the country. I spoke with her over email, and absolutely loved hearing more about Vibratex and the Magic Wand empire!

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Anal Sex for Fatties

WRITTEN BY CARLY S.

Any sexual exploration is all about what feels right, no matter what body size you are. Fat sex, thin sex, or any connection in between, you should feel comfortable and good about what you are doing. Living in a larger body comes with a whole set of its own challenges from finding a towel to wrap around your entire body, to finding affirming clothing that actually fits. Don’t let any challenges make you feel inadequate as you figure out how to experience pleasurable sex. Anal sex is for everyone! The anus is the great equalizer, folks of all ages, sexual orientations, body configuration, etc, all have an asshole and it might be fun for you to explore it.

Relaxation, lubrication, and communication are the key factors in exploring anyone’s backdoor. Besides using anal safe toys, meaning toys that have a flared base so they don’t get lost in the body, all you need to explore is a willing butt and a good lubricant. Your partner might be amazing, but they are unfortunately not a mind reader. Having a conversation before you have anal sex for the first time is important, and during the act, if you want more or less of something, let your partner know!

Don’t let body confidence stop you from exploring potentially pleasurable experiences. Your partner knows exactly what you look like, and guess what? They want to be in the bedroom with you. It’s very likely that your partner is interested in you because of the way your body looks, not in spite of the way your body looks. Your butt is beautiful. If you’re going to let someone penetrate your backdoor, the easiest way to make it pleasurable is to make sure you’re relaxed, especially about how your body looks. It may not be your most favorite body part, but the reality is that someone will be looking at it, they may be licking it, or penetrating it. All butts are beautiful. If you’re not super confident yet, having dim sexy lighting can help not highlight areas you don’t feel as confident about.

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